I even made a plan to leave without him knowing, which only made me feel guilty, and the thought of me feeling guilty makes me even madder. He hasn’t cared about how he talks to me or treats me, so why do I care so much even though I cannot wait to leave and start living my life the way I want to and not how he wants me to. It is scary to read that it is no closure.
If you’ve read anything I’ve written, you can’t save people. This is classic “nice guy” behavior of trying to save a girl. It means you’re putting a woman before your own needs. And that’s bad and will result in a toxic relationship whether she has BPD or not. So you shouldn’t be surprised at all that your relationship went to the pits. It doesn’t matter how bad her upbringing was – if you’re trying to save someone, you will always fail.
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It’s roots emanate from the deep central wounds of the disorder. A relationship with a person with BPD is sometimes described as a “love-hate” relationship, in which your loved one is needy one minute and pushes you away from the next. You and your dating spouse could be in a borderline personality disorder relationship cycle. BlackPeopleMeet’s dating platform connects Black singles with one another. The platform is “designed for dating, pen pals” and other types of connections, according to the site.
Do I hope she gets help – yes, is that my responsibility – no. I also like to thank the other people who posted. It feels good to know I’m not alone in this. It feels good to know it really isn’t my fault because you all know what I’m talking about. Your article describes exactly the situation we have been in.
I don’t know that I am a full BPD, but I know I have OCD that doesn’t help when I am trying not to obsess over my already insane emotions. Thank you for posting this and for your time. I had a 7 yr relationship with bpd girl .she belongs to poor joint family. I am the person who stayed 7 yrs in her life.she is always unsecured .
MENTAL ABUSE IN RELATIONSHIPS: What You Should Know
I read all the comments here and I had 17 years with mine. I did not choose to leave until he became physically violent. For several years, I supported him because he could never keep employment. It gave him space and we were happy with that. I took a position overseas and he became restless with no work prospects. Then we moved to his country and I became dependent on his income.
I only sell the truth – and the truth is hard work. Changing mindsets, getting good at dating and relationships is NOT easy, and people struggle with it forever. And since mainstream dating advice is horrible these days, people get more and more lost.
You must always take care of yourself first no matter what. We just slowed things down and then Filteroff we found out she was pregnant. It was the “need you, miss you, love you” all over again.
Will My BPD Ex Come Back To Me? Here Are My Suggestions
From total ups, great sex to total beat downs and extreme distance. Because he had moved on and now is trying to rub my nose in it. Thanks everyone right now I don’t even feel that I know WHO I have become and I need to find me again for sure.
Re: Opinions on BPDFamily.com?
Sometimes an idiot will have a go but in general the pwBPD seem to be welcomed. That is one of the reasons I visit here as it helps me to understand my exs. Hopefully non of my post have come across as demonising. The website seems to cater to victims of people with BPD, so obviously there will be some demonizing going on. Just keep in mind that they are not talking about you, they are talking about a different person entirely who just happens to have the same disorder. I feel so badly for the people with BPD whose friends / relatives / etc post on there about them.
Lack Of Emotional Control Scares Women Away
For those just getting out there, there’s not much better. Also, there’s no harm in asking right away during an interaction with a potential partner what their faith is or if they would be willing to convert. If you know what you want, you can filter out mismatches quickly. The distribution of male and female members is slightly uneven—four females for every one male.